I want to stress that he's not a bad kid. He's not acting up, being disruptive or disrespectful. He just can't seem to pay attention or listen enough to be able to keep up with the class. And as his teacher says, he's just "some place else" a lot of the times. And while he might know how to spell all the words studied that week, if he doesn't hear her call them out come test time, he doesn't write them down. So she can't see that he knows how to spell them, and clearly, his grades will be affected.
We've put some things into place to help. Whatever work he doesn't complete in class, she sends home so I can make him do it before he can play. She has 5th grade aides that come in to assist the students as needed. She moved his seat to be right next to her so she could keep an eye on him and help him along as much as possible. And Tom has started to walk him into his class so he can help Murphy with the "check-in procedure." Getting off on the right start seems to help Murphy for the rest of the day. I think the numerous steps in the check-in process just overwhelm him and leave him beginning the day already feeling behind. What a horrible way for a six-year old to feel!!!
We've also made some changes at home. We started a point system with goals that focus on staying on task (without being reminded 10 times), following daily/nightly routines without being prompted and
successfully completing several-step instructions (without being reminded). I'm not so sure a point system will work for him. A friend told me about a similar system she has in her house, but she makes it more visual than points on a piece of paper. So, I might have to try that route soon. I just don't think he gets that excited about tally marks.
Anyway, after many conversations with numerous people, we completed some paperwork to see if he has Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD). I am not linking ADD to any website because I have - purposefully - not read up on it. (I learned that tip over four years ago.) We - just Tom and I - have an appointment with Murphy's pediatrician tomorrow to go over the results. Then on Friday we have a Child Study meeting at his school. Here is a definition of Child Study Meeting that I found:
The purpose of the child study meeting is to identify barriers to the learning process, to target specific issues, identify base-line data needed and to then propose strategies which will be attempted as interventions.
I don't know exactly how accurate that definition is, but it sounds close enough to me. There will be a lot of different people in the meeting, each providing their information and thoughts. And then the group decides on what, if anything, needs to be done.
So, we'll see what the next couple of days brings. This has been weighing so heavy on our minds in the Holton household. I just hate to think of how "lost" he feels during the day. And the chain reaction of isolation that it has already started to cause. That is so not our son. And I can't stand to see him go down this road. So, hopefully this meeting will be good. Maybe they can offer some plan to help him. IF he's ADD, he's certainly not the only one in school. So, I'm sure they have some things in place to help.
Anyone want to share any ADD experiences? Got any advice/tips for me?