tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4834405754301414360.post5424681749863122645..comments2024-02-23T05:25:46.409-05:00Comments on Life Since Harlie: Marathon Training and Non-Hearing TermsChristyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12158503749591171395noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4834405754301414360.post-79265555749674668652011-10-11T12:20:15.959-04:002011-10-11T12:20:15.959-04:00I think hearing impaired is a great description fo...I think hearing impaired is a great description for Harlie's hearing situation. Though I agree that term isn't best for someone who is deaf or hard of hearing, in Harlie's case her hearing is impaired. Maybe that's the difference. Maybe it's all about finding the right terminology for the actual condition rather than trying to sugar coat it. In your case to say she is deaf in one "ear" and hard of hearing in the other well that's a little lengthy of a description. I do think people can be overly senstive. But I disagree about calling people normal or not. I just imagine how I would feel if I had a difference and people called me "not normal" because of it. It feels demeaning to me. Sorry just have to say that because I feel strongly about it. You are a great mom and person. I'm sure that shines through to everyone no matter what words you use.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16092188894818322564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4834405754301414360.post-63486909462425881032011-10-11T11:43:18.204-04:002011-10-11T11:43:18.204-04:00Christy I so feel your pain on this. There has be...Christy I so feel your pain on this. There has been a long standing debate on a forum I follow regarding the word retarded. Yes, by every definition of the word, Alex is 'retarded'...however I find the term extremely rude and insensitive...yet others find it completely acceptable. The State has changed the waiver from Mental Retardation waiver to Intellectually Disabled and some people had issue with that. I will never use that word to describe Alex or any other child. I've often told people who use it in front of me I find it offensive, yet the continue to use it. I say Alex is developmentally delayed - that's what I'm comfortable with. PotAto, PotOto...I don't think you should leave your comfort zone because someone says it's offensive. You live with Harlie day in and day out - and at the end of the day, you are so right...she is an extraordinary girl and that's all that matters. Everyone has an opinion and not everyone will always agree - stick with what you're comfortable with!!Donnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14372563554937434493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4834405754301414360.post-35140816210642457902011-10-11T11:09:26.120-04:002011-10-11T11:09:26.120-04:00Christy & Tom...
You two do or say whatever is...Christy & Tom...<br />You two do or say whatever is in your hearts to make life easier and better for Harlie and your family. You don't have to please other people or be politically correct in this world. At the gates of heaven you won't be judged on that, you will be judged on your love in your heart for all that has been created. And it's very evident that you & Tom have a heart full of love, love for each other, your children, your families and your friends. And that's all that matters. Continue what you are doing, don't stress over what makes others happy, you have enough on your plates, do what makes you happy, comfortable and makes life a little bit easier for all of you. God bless you all, and you all are an inspiration to me and I'm sure to many others who know and love you. Love Kathy L.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4834405754301414360.post-11919101987002845572011-10-11T08:20:57.106-04:002011-10-11T08:20:57.106-04:00Well said, Christy! And your final conclusion is r...Well said, Christy! And your final conclusion is right on. When talking about your precious daughter, you use the term that makes YOU feel comfortable. End. of. story.Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03478063966631771155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4834405754301414360.post-33557436621260438182011-10-11T07:26:16.146-04:002011-10-11T07:26:16.146-04:00Christy, don't worry about it. ANY term that ...Christy, don't worry about it. ANY term that is used is bound to be upsetting to someone. If 'they' find your term offensive, will they care that you find their term equally bothersome?<br /><br />We've offered assistance to someone walking with sticks and been thanked profusely. The next one sent us away with a flea in our ear.<br /><br />Damned if you do and damned if you don't. Therefore not worth losing sleep or energy over.Lisa Bhttp://www.mutteringsfromadarkcorner.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com